Kodi Mulungu amakhululuka chigololo ndikulandila ubale watsopano? .
Kodi ndimavuto ati omwe anthu osiyana amakumana nawo?
Kulekanitsidwa sikuli chimodzimodzi; amadalira pazinthu zosiyanasiyana. Sizofanana kupatukana ndi kusiya, chifukwa choukira boma, chifukwa kukhalira limodzi sikungatheke chifukwa kulibe mgwirizano chifukwa sipanakhale chikondi chenicheni ndi kudzipereka koma chinyengo ndipo zasokonezedwa ndi kutengeka kapena chilakolako chomwe chasokonezedwa ndi ulemu.
Chifukwa chake thandizo lomwe aliyense amafunikira ndi losiyana .
Inde, munthu aliyense amafuna mayankho osiyanasiyana. Mulungu amatipatsa mphatso yakuzindikira tikadzipereka kuti timutumikire.
Tikamachira, titha kuzindikira kuti tili ndi zovuta zina m'mbuyomu komwe mwina sitinakhale ndi ufulu wosankha.
M'mabanja okhazikitsidwa bwino kapena omwe asinthidwa pambuyo pake ndi chisomo cha Mulungu, palinso zolemetsa, koma nthawi izi, Mulungu nthawi zonse walola kulekanaku kukhala kwabwino kwambiri , kwa munthuyo komanso kwa wokwatirana naye, ana, banja.
Izi ndizovuta kuzimvetsetsa chifukwa anthu ambiri amafika pakulekana pomwe iwowo adadzudzula omwe apatukana, aweruza, Ndipo tsopano akudziwona momwe aliri omwe awadzudzula. Ndipo ichi ndichilimbikitso chachitukuko kudzera mwa anthu omwe ali ndi mabala.
Nthawi zambiri timapanga ziweruzo ndikukhala ndi tsankho la anthu omwe samakwaniritsa zomwe timayembekezera! Ndipo sindife Mulungu woweruza kapena kuweruziratu aliyense.
Sindinawone Mulungu mochuluka pakupambana kwanga koma m'mabala anga chifukwa ali pamenepo, mwaulephera, pomwe munthu ali ndi mwayi wotseguka.
Zimachitika mwa apo ndi apo kuti Mulungu amachiritsa kudzera pakupambana, nthawi zambiri amazichita kudzera m'mabala , kumene munthu sangathe: munthu wosalimba ndiye amene amakopa chikondi ndi chifundo cha Khristu . Timaphunzira kuwerenga chikondi cha Khristu mwa anthuwa, mumtima uliwonse wovulala womwe umatseguka.
Kodi mavuto awa angachepetse bwanji?
Chinthu choyamba chomwe timachita kapena kuyesa kuchita ndi mverani kuti mugonjetse mtima , chifukwa pamlingo woti wina agwire mtima wa mnzake, kupereka yake, munthuyo amatseguka.
Chinthu chonyenga mdera lino ndikutsegula mtima wanu. Atiphunzitsa kudzitchinjiriza, kutseka mitima yathu, kusakhulupirira, kukhala ndi ziweruzo ndi tsankho.
Zomwe tikuyesera kuchita ndikuti tigonjetse, koma sizingatheke ngati simupereka zanu. Chifukwa timalandira ulamuliro tikawulanda mtima, chifukwa mphamvu sili kugonjera, zimaperekedwa kwa inu.
Ndipo timachita kulemekeza nthawi za wina ndi mnzake. Anthu omwe ali okonzeka kuwona mbiri ya moyo wake ndikuvomereza zolakwa zake atha kulowa ku Betaniya kuti akachiritse.
Ngati ndatsekedwa chifukwa ndikhumudwitsidwa ndikulephera chifukwa banja langa silinayankhe pulojekiti yanga, ndipo ndikuyang'ana maphwando olakwika, zikutanthauza kuti malowa akadali ine, ndipo panthawiyi, sitingachite zambiri kuti timuperekeze munthuyo.
Paubwenzi uliwonse pamakhala mgwirizano udindo . Sindikulankhulanso liwongo chifukwa kulakwa kulibe ngati kulibe chifuniro, komanso kuwonjezera pamenepo, zolakwa zimatsekereza, koma tiyenera kukhala ndi chidziwitso ndi udindo pazosankha zathu.
Tikadzidziwa bwino kwambiri, titha kusintha, kukonza, ndipo izi zimatimasula kuchokera ku zolemetsa zomwe tili nazo. Timaphunzira kudzikhululukira tokha motere, ndi chisomo cha Mulungu. Mulungu yekha ndi amene amachiritsa ndi kupulumutsa.
Munatani kuti muthane ndi mavuto a banja lanu?
Sindikuwona ngati cholephera. Sindinapezepo motero. Osati onse olekanitsidwa amalingalira mkhalidwe wawo kulephera. Nanenso sindinasiyane. Ndiye woyamba pa zonse.
Yemwe anditsogolera, amene akuchiritsa mtima wanga, ndipo malingaliro anga akhala Ambuye nthawi zonse. Lero ndikuwona kulekanitsidwa kwanga ngati mwayi womwe ndakumananadi ndi Khristu.
Ndisanadzipatule, ndinkafuna thandizo m'mabuku othandizira, ma psychologist, ndi asing'anga, koma nthawi ina, ndinazindikira kuti iwo kapena mabogi zathandiza moyo wanga, mtima wanga. Adandipatsa malangizo, koma ndimafuna zina: kuchiritsidwa kwa umunthu wanga, kubwezeretsanso umunthu wanga.
Kenako ndinakumana ndi Schoenstatt Shrine, ndinapanga Pangano la Chikondi ndi Namwali Maria, ndipo ndinamuuza kuti: Ngati ndinu mayi weniweni ndipo Mulungu akufuna kundichiritsa kudzera mwa inu, ndili pano.
Ndinangoti inde kukhala komweko, kuti ndipite kamodzi pamlungu, osatinso, ndipo umo ndi momwe mtima wanga ndi malingaliro anga zidasinthira. Wina ayenera kupereka inde; ngati sichoncho, Mulungu sangachite chilichonse.
Ndi Mulungu amene wandichiritsa. Ndipo nditachira, zidakhudza ana anga. Mulungu ali ndi ine ndipo ndi wokhulupirika kwa ine ngakhale nditakhala wosakhulupirika.
Chiyambi cha kuchiritsidwa kwanga chinali Pangano la Chikondi. Mary adazitenga mozama. Sindinakhulupirire kuti ndinali wokayika, koma anditsogolera ndi dzanja ndikupitiliza kunditsogolera tsiku lililonse.
Sindinakhalepo wosangalala monga momwe ndinkadzilolera kuti ndichite. Vuto ndi pamene sitilola kuti tithe; Pomwe likulu ndilo ine ndi malingaliro anga aumunthu, ndimadzipangira khoma lomwe sindingathe kumvera ndikudalira kalikonse koma ndekha, koma chikondi cha Mulungu nchachikulu komanso kuleza mtima kwake kopanda malire.
Kodi mungapewe bwanji kudana ndi banja mukatha?
Zimatheka mukadzipenyetsetsa nokha dziwani kuti inunso mumalakwitsa mukasiya kulekerera munthu wina yekhayo mukasiya kudikira ndikulamula kuti ena andisangalatse. Pamene wina apeza kuti chisangalalo changa sichidalira ena, koma chimakhala mwa ine.
Apa timayamba kuzindikira kuti winayo amadziwa zambiri monga ine ndikudziwira pomwe wina apeza kuti mnzake wagweranso mumisampha (mwachitsanzo kuti andikonde kwambiri, ndadalira kwambiri, ndakhala kapolo kwambiri, kuzunzidwa, kuchititsidwa manyazi,).
Chinthu china chofunikira ndikuphunzira kudzikhululukira, chovuta kwambiri sikuti Mulungu andikhululukire koma kuti ndizikhululukire komanso kuti ndikhululukire. Izi ndizovuta chifukwa ndife odzikonda.
Zinandithandiza kwambiri poyamba kuzindikira izi ndikuganiza: ngati Yesu Khristu adawonekera tsopano ndipo ndidamupempha kuti andikhululukire chifukwa ndakhala wonyada, wamwano chifukwa ndapwetekedwa kapena chifukwa ndaponda ndikupondapo ena, chinthu choyamba Ndimadzifunsa kuti: mumakhululukira omwe adakulakwirani?
Ngati sitikhululukira iwo amene atilakwira, tili ndi ufulu wotani kupempha Mulungu kuti atikhululukire? Ngati sindimakhululuka, sindimakula chifukwa ndimangiriridwa ku mkwiyo ndi mkwiyo, ndipo izi zimandichepetsa ngati munthu, kukhululuka kumatimasula, ndiye chinthu chathanzi kwambiri padziko lapansi. Mulungu sangakhale muukali ndi mkwiyo. Kukwiya, kuipidwa, ndizo zomangira zoipa, choncho ndine wa zoipa; Ndimasankha zoyipa.
Chikondi cha Mulungu nchachikulu kwambiri kotero chimandilola kusankha pakati pa chabwino ndi choipa. Ndiye ndili ndi mwayi waukulu kuti Ambuye amakhululuka nthawi zonse, koma ngati sindimakhululuka, sindingathe kulandira kumasulidwa kwenikweni kuchokera ku chikhululukiro cha Mulungu.
Kuchiritsidwa kwa chikhululukiro ndi chinthu chamtengo wapatali; nthawi zonse tikakhululuka kuchokera pansi pamtima, chikondi chathu chimafanana ndi chikondi cha Mulungu. Tikatuluka mwa ife eni kukhululuka, timakhala ngati Mulungu. Mphamvu zenizeni zili mchikondi.
Munthu akayamba kumvetsetsa izi, amayamba kuzindikira Mulungu ngakhale atalakwitsa, mabala, ndi machimo: kukhala ndi pakati, kuzunzidwa, kupatukana, komabe, chikondi cha Mulungu chimapambana, ndipo kukhululuka ndiye mphamvu za Mulungu, zomwe zimatipatsanso ife, amuna. Kukhululuka ndi mphatso yomwe muyenera kupempha kwa Mulungu.
Kwa Khristu, aliyense amene anali kunja kwa lamulo, kunja kwa chikhalidwe anali mwayi, ndipo Bethany akufuna kutsatira mapazi ake momwemonso, wopanda chiweruzo kapena tsankho, koma ngati mwayi woti Khristu adziwonetsere yekha mwa munthu ameneyo ndi chikondi chake — kumulemekeza ndi kumukonda monga iye aliri, osati monga timafunira iye.
Nthawi ndi mphatso yosandulika ndikukhululukirana. Kufikira izi ndi chuma cha chisangalalo mdziko lino, zivute zitani.
Kodi zimachitika bwanji kuti ana akule mogwirizana ndi makolo awo kupatukana?
Ana ndi omwe amazunzidwa osalakwa ndipo amafunikira maumboni onse awiri, makolo ndi amayi awo. Cholakwika chachikulu ndi kuwonongeka komwe tingachite kwa ana athu ndikuchotsa kutchuka kwa abambo awo kapena amayi awo, kunenera wina zoipa, kuchotsa ulamuliro ... ziyenera kuteteza ana kudana ndi mkwiyo wathu. Ali ndi ufulu kukhala ndi abambo ndi amayi.
Ana ndi omwe amakhudzidwa ndi kupatukana, osati chifukwa. Pakhala pali kusakhulupirika, ngakhale kupha; chifukwa chili kwa makolo onse awiri.
Tonse tili ndi udindo: wozunza kulibe ngati sindilola kuti ndizizunzidwa. Nayi maudindo angapo osowa kwamaphunziro, amantha. Ndipo zonsezi, ngati sitinadziwe kuchita bwino m'banja, ndizolemetsa kwa ana athu.
Pakulekana, ana amadzimva osatetezeka ndipo amafunika kukhala ndi chikondi chopanda malire . Ndi nkhanza kugwiritsa ntchito ana olankhula zoipa za anzawo, kapena kuwagwiritsa ntchito ngati kuponyera zida. Osalakwa komanso osadzitchinjiriza m'banja ndi ana, ayenera kutetezedwa kuposa makolo chifukwa ndiosalimba, ngakhale makolo akuyenera kuchiritsidwa.
Zolemba:
Mafunso ndi María Luisa Erhardt, katswiri wothandizira komanso kuchiritsa anthu olekanitsidwa
Kulekana kwake m'banja kwamupangitsa kukhala katswiri pakutseka mabala am'maganizo. María Luisa Erhardt wakhala akumvetsera ndikuperekeza anthu opatukana kwa zaka zopitilira khumi kudzera muutumiki wachikhristu womwe amatsogolera ku Spain, ndipo umadziwika ndi dzina la malo omwe Yesu adapumulira: Bethany. Amagawana za machiritso ake ndikutsimikizira kuti Mulungu akalola kupatukana, nthawi zonse zimakhala zabwino.
(Mal. 2:16) (Mateyu 19: 9) (Mateyu 19: 7-8) (Luka 17: 3-4, 1 Akorinto 7: 10-11)
(Mateyu 6:15) (1 Akorinto 7:15) (Luka 16:18) (1 Akorinto 7: 10-11) (1 Akorinto 7:39)
(Deuteronomo 24: 1-4)
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