Chololedwa pabedi laukwati ndi chiti?
Bedi lachikwati lachikhristu . Ubwenzi wapamtima umangopitilira kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi. Ubwenzi wabwino ndikuwonetsa ubale wabwino. Ndi kukhazikitsidwa kwa zabwino m'banja labwino. Baibulo limaletsa kugonana musanakwatirane. Ngati mukusangalala ndi Mnzanuyo muzochita (zogonana) zili bwino, simuli muuchimo.
1) KUSANGALALA KWABWINO KWABANJA -
Asayansi yachitukuko amagawaniza zamoyo motere:
· Zachikhalidwe
· Kutengeka
· Luntha
· Zauzimu
Mwathupi
Dera lachilengedwe limaphatikizaponso zokumana nazo za banjali.
Chololedwa pabedi laukwati ndi chani?. Ponena za moyo wapamtima, ambiri amaganiza kuti kukondana ndichinthu chilichonse m'banja. Anthu ambiri amayembekeza kuti ubale wapamtima ukhale maziko a banja labwino, koma sizili choncho ayi. Chosiyana ndichinthu choyenera: ubale wabwino kwambiri pabanja ndiye maziko aubwenzi wabwino.
Ubwenzi wapamtima ndi mphatso yochokera kwa Mulungu kwa ana awo; Adatipanga ndi zokopa zapamtima.
Baibulo limati: Adamu anadziwa mkazi wake Hava, amene anatenga pakati nabala Kaini Genesis 4: 1. Kudziwa m'Malemba Oyera kumatanthauza ubale wapamtima. Chifukwa chake, titha kumvetsetsa kuti ngakhale ikunena za zochitika zathupi, vesili limatanthawuza chidziwitso chomwe chimaphatikizapo kugawana, kuvomereza, kudziulula nokha kwathunthu.
Uku ndiye kudzaza kwa mgwirizano wapamtima. Chifukwa chiyani? Chifukwa kudzera muubwenzi wapamtima, onse mwamuna ndi mkazi, amauzana kapena kudziwana kuposa kale, kuti azitha kulumikizana kwambiri.
Kukhutira ndi ubwenzi wabwino ndi zotsatira za mgwirizano womwe umakhalapo m'malo ena m'banja.
Pokhapokha ngati awiriwa aphunzira tanthauzo la chikondi chenicheni, pamene onse avomerezana monga momwe aliri, akakhala ndi luso loyamikirana, akaphunzira mfundo zoyankhulirana moyenera, akatenga kusiyana ndi zomwe amakonda, akasintha kuubwenzi wololerana wa ulemu ndi kukhulupirirana, ndipamene angayembekezere kukhala ndiubwenzi wokhutiritsa.
Alla Fromme akunena zaubwenzi monga kukambirana kwa thupi , zomwe zikutanthauza kuti thupi komanso umunthu wa awiriwa zimalumikizana nthawi yogwirizana.
Kuti pakhale kusintha kwaubwenzi, pambuyo paukwati, pamafunika kulola kuti papite nthawi. Izi zimadetsa nkhawa mabanja ambiri omwe amaganiza zopanga mgwirizano nthawi yomweyo. Kafukufuku wina akuwonetsa kuti mabanja ochepera 50% amakhutira koyambirira kwa banja lawo.
Mbali zinayi zakukondana zomwe ndizofunikira kuti mukhale osangalala
Mbali zinayi zaubwenzi zomwe zimathandizira kukhala pachibwenzi
1 - Ubale Wamawu
Izi zikuphatikizapo kuphunzira kudziwa mnzanu kudzera mu zokambirana, kucheza limodzi. Izi ndizofunikira kwambiri kwa azimayi ambiri omwe nthawi zambiri amafuna kulumikizidwa kwambiri ndi amuna kapena akazi awo kudzera m'mawu apamtima asanasangalale ndi mchitidwe wakuthupi.
2 - Ubale Wapamtima
Kugawana zakukhosi ndikumvana, komwe ndikofunikira kuti mukhale osangalala. Makamaka kwa azimayi, chifukwa amayankha bwino kuubwenzi wapamtima pamene ubale wonse ndiwotseguka komanso wachikondi akawona kuti amuna awo amamvetsetsa ndikumvera momwe akumvera.
3 - Ubale Wakuthupi
Mukamaganizira za ubale wakuthupi, mverani zambiri zakukhudza, kupapatidwa, kukumbatirana, kupsompsona, ndi kukondana. Kulumikizana kwamtundu woyenera kumatulutsa kusangalatsa ndi kuchiritsa kochokera ndi zinthu zamankhwala mthupi la onse omwe amamukhudza komanso amene wamukhudza. Awiriwo amapeza zambiri pamene wina afikira mnzake m'njira yoyenera.
4 - Ubale Wauzimu
Ubwenzi wauzimu ukhoza kukhala ubale wapamtima kwambiri. Mwamuna ndi mkazi akhoza kudziwana wina ndi mnzake pamene onse atembenukira kwa Mulungu ndikumudziwa Iye kuchokera pansi pamtima. Kukondana kwauzimu kungapezeke pamene awiriwo apemphera limodzi; Amapembedza limodzi komanso amapititsa limodzi kutchalitchi. Chiyanjano cha uzimu chimaphatikizapo kudziwana wina ndi mzake munthawi ya chikhulupiriro chogawana.
Kumbukirani kuti magwiridwe antchito amagwirizana kwambiri ndi magawo onse amomwe timamvera. Ngati amayamikirana wina ndi mnzake komanso ndi chimwemwe, timakwaniritsa zosowa za tsiku ndi tsiku m'malo ena a moyo; tidzakhala ndi ubale wolimba komanso woopsa. Mulingo womwe timakondana nawo chimakhala chisonyezero cha momwe tikulankhulirana, zosangalatsa, kukhala owonamtima, osangalala, komanso omasuka wina ndi mnzake.
Za onse,
Yambani kuchitapo kanthu
Amuna ndi akazi ambiri amayamikira izi. Kusintha kwa mayendedwe kumalimbitsa chidziwitso cha banjali.
Samalirani mawonekedwe anu
Wokondedwa wanu adzawona kuyesetsa kwanu kuti mukhale wokongola.
Patulani nthawi yochulukirapo kuti musangalale ndi chibwenzi - Musafulumire. Pangani msonkhano uwu kukhala mphindi yopambana kwa inu.
Samalani zachilengedwe
Payenera kukhala zachinsinsi chifukwa palibe amene akuyenera kudodometsa mphindi imeneyo. Malowa ayenera kukhala okonzeka m'njira yabwino kwambiri kuti athe kupezana bwino (nyimbo zofewa, magetsi otsika, bedi lokonzedwa bwino, mpweya wabwino); Chilichonse ndichofunikira.
Nenani zokhumba zanu
Gwiritsani ntchito mawu monga: Ndimakukondani, ndikukufunani, ndimakusangalatsani, Ndinu wokongola, ndingakukwatireni. Mawu awa ali ndi mphamvu yapadera yolimbikitsira. Muuzeni wokondedwa wanu kawirikawiri mawuwa ndipo musonyezeni momwe mumakondera kukhala naye.
Pafupipafupi zochitika pachibwenzi
Kuchuluka kwaubwenzi kumadalira pazinthu zingapo monga zaka, thanzi, kupanikizika pagulu, ntchito, momwe akumvera, kutha kulankhulana pazinthu zokhudzana ndi chibwenzi, ndi zina zambiri.
Awiriwa ndiomwe akuyenera kudziwa kutengera momwe zinthu ziliri, kuti angakumane kangati mwatcheru. Izi zimatha kusiyanasiyana pakati pa maanja ndi mabanja, nyengo ndi nyengo, komanso nthawi ndi nthawi.
Onsewa sayenera kukakamiza wina kuchita zomwe mnzake sakufuna, chifukwa chikondi sichikakamiza, koma chimalemekeza. Kumbukirani kuti kuchita chiwerewere ndi thupi, malingaliro, ndi uzimu.
KWA AKAZI OKHA
Mvetsetsani kufunika kwake kwaubwenzi
Padzakhala nthawi pamene mukufuna kulumikizana bwino ndi amuna anu ngakhale mbali zinayi zaubwenzi zomwe zafufuzidwa sizili pamalo oyenera. Pazifukwa izi, musadzitaye mwayiwu ngati mukuwona kuti zosowa zanu sizinakwaniritsidwe.
Osalanda mwamuna wanu chisangalalo chocheza nanu kwambiri
Nthawi zina, akazi omwe zosowa zawo sizinakwaniritsidwe kapena malingaliro awo sanabwezeredwe, amawona kuti ali ndi ufulu wolanga amuna awo, kuwapewa, kukana kugona nawo. Kumbukirani kuti mwina mukuthandizira patali pakati panu, kuziziritsa, komanso kuswa chibwenzicho.
Mkazi alibe mphamvu pa thupi lake la iye yekha, koma mwamuna; Ngakhalenso mwamuna alibe ulamuliro pa thupi lake, koma mkazi. Osakanizana wina ndi mnzake, pokhapokha kwa nthawi yayitali mwavomerezana, kuti mupemphere mwakachetechete; ndi kubweranso pamodzi, kuti Satana asakuyeseni chifukwa cha kusadziletsa kwanu. 1 Akorinto 7: 4,5.
Dziwani zomwe amakonda
Mwamunayo amanjenjemera pamene mkazi wake amufunsa zomwe akufuna zokhudzana ndi chibwenzi ndikuyesera kumukhutiritsa. Izi sizitanthauza kuti muyenera kutsegula zikhulupiriro zanu zaumwini kapena zachinsinsi zomwe mumaziona ngati zoyipa chifukwa pali malire paubwenzi wapabanja. Koma musaiwale kuti mutha kuchita zinthu zambiri zomwe amuna anu amaganiza m'maganizo mwake zomwe mutha kumupatsa ndikusangalala nazo.
Dzidziwitseni mwaubwenzi wapamtima
Gwiritsani ntchito mwayi wamatsenga mukasamba mosangalala, kuvala china chowotcha, kuthira mafuta onunkhira mozungulira, kutsitsa magetsi mchipinda, kuvala nyimbo zachikondi, mwachidule, kukonzekera malowa kwakanthawi. Zachidziwikire kuti amuna anu angasangalale ngati inu. Iyi ndi njira yothandizira kuti pakhale zosiyanasiyana, zomwe ndizothandiza komanso zathanzi m'moyo wapamtima.
Nthawi zambiri timalankhula zakugonana monga kupanga chikondi. Kunena zowona, izi sizowona. Kukumana kwa matupi awiri sikungapangitse chikondi. Zitha kungofotokozera ndikulitsa chikondi chomwe chilipo kale. Ndipo mtundu wa zokumana nazo zidzadalira mtundu wachikondi womwe wafotokozedwa David R Mace m'buku lake Who God United.
Ukwati uchitidwe ulemu ndi onse, ndi pogona pakhale wopanda chilema; koma adama ndi achigololo adzawaweruza Mulungu Ahebri 13: 4.
Odziwika kuti ndi akhristu sayenera kulowa muukwati mpaka nkhaniyo itaganiziridwa bwino, ndi pemphero, ndikuwona bwino, kuti awone ngati mgwirizanowu ungalemekeze Mulungu. Kenako, ayenera kulingalira moyenerera za mwayi uliwonse wamabanja; ndipo mfundo yoyeretsedwa iyenera kukhala maziko azinthu zonse.- RH, Seputembara 19, 1899.
KWA ANTHU OKHA
Khalani okondana - Amayi amakonda kumva kuti amakondedwa, amtengo wapatali, amasiririka, komanso amakopeka. Maluwa, makadi, notsi, kapena mphatso yaying'ono imatha kukhala ndi zotsatira zodabwitsa. Kumbukirani kuti ngati mukufuna kukumana bwino kwambiri ndi mkazi wanu usiku, kukonzekera kumayamba m'mawa kwambiri. Musaiwalenso kuti akazi amakopeka ndi zomwe amamva.
Musafulumire
Simudzataya chilichonse ngati mumathera nthawi yochuluka mukumugwira, kumukumbatira, komanso kumusisita mkazi wanu. Mufunseni komwe amakonda kukhudzidwa ndikumvetsetsa zosowa zake. Kumbukirani kulumikizana naye momasuka ndi ma caress omwe samatsogolera kuubwenzi. Mutamandeni, muuzeni kuchuluka kwa zomwe mumafuna, ndikumukumbatira mwachangu.
Khalani okondana
Sindikutanthauza kuti muyenera kukhala ndi thupi logwira ntchito bwino. Ndikutanthauza kukhala waukhondo, wonunkhira, ndevu zometedwa (azimayi ena sakonda ndevu), okhala ndi mafuta onunkhiritsa, mapepala atsopano pabedi, ndi nyimbo zofewa zachikondi kumbuyo.
Ganizirani zokhutiritsa mkazi wanu
Kumbukirani kuti mumalimbikitsidwa ndi zomwe mumawona, ndipo zokha, ndinu okonzeka kukhala paubwenzi wapamtima. Mwamunayo ali ngati moto wa gasi, posachedwa watentha, pomwe mkazi amakhala ngati moto wamatabwa, zimatenga nthawi yambiri, mpaka mphindi 40. Chifukwa chake dikirani mpaka atakupatsani chizindikiritso kuti ali wokondwa kwambiri kuti limodzi, atha kufika pachimake.
Nthawi zambiri timalankhula zakugonana monga kupanga chikondi. Kunena zowona, izi sizowona. Kukumana kwa matupi awiri sikungapangitse chikondi. Zitha kungofotokozera ndikulitsa chikondi chomwe chilipo kale. Pazomwe zikuchitikirazo zidzadalira mtundu wachikondi chomwe chikuwonetsedwa, David R Mace m'buku lake Who God United.
Ukwati umalemekezedwa mwa onse, komanso kama wopanda chilema Ahebri 13: 4.
Zamkatimu
- Chololedwa pabedi laukwati ndi chiti?
- Mbali zinayi zakukondana zomwe ndizofunikira kuti mukhale osangalala
- 1 - Ubale Wamawu
- 2 - Ubale Wapamtima
- 3 - Ubale Wakuthupi
- 4 - Ubale Wauzimu
- Za onse,
- Yambani kuchitapo kanthu
- Samalirani mawonekedwe anu
- Samalani zachilengedwe
- Nenani zokhumba zanu
- Pafupipafupi zochitika pachibwenzi
- KWA AKAZI OKHA
- Mvetsetsani kufunika kwake kwaubwenzi
- Osalanda mwamuna wanu chisangalalo chocheza nanu kwambiri
- Dziwani zomwe amakonda
- Dzidziwitseni mwaubwenzi wapamtima
- KWA ANTHU OKHA
- Musafulumire
- Khalani okondana
- Ganizirani zokhutiritsa mkazi wanu