Kuthetsa banja lomwe lili ndi vuto lamalire

Ending Marriage With Borderline Personality Disorder





Kuthetsa banja ndi Borderline Personality Disorder

Kuthetsa banja lomwe lili ndi vuto lamalire.

Zaka ziwiri zapitazo, ndidakwatira mkazi yemwe ndimaganiza kuti ndi wangwiro kwa ine. Tinkakondana kwambiri, ndipo ndimamva kuti ndili naye pafupi komanso ndimalumikizana naye kwakuti nthawi yomweyo ndinadziwa kuti ndikufuna kumukwatira. Koma titangokwatirana, zinthu zinasokonekera

Anayamba kusinthasintha, ndipo adayamba kuchita zachiwawa: adandiponyera zinthu ndikundimenya pazinthu zazing'ono kwambiri. Ndikuganiza kuti ali ndi vuto la m'malire; akukwanira zizindikiro zonse. Ndamva BPD ndi matenda a moyo wonse. Ndimusudzule?

Kodi muyenera kusudzula mnzanu?

Tsoka ilo, palibe yankho losavuta kwa uyu . Kaya musankha kusudzula mnzanu kapena mkazi wanu ndi chisankho chachikulu, ndipo palibe amene angakuuzeni zomwe zili zoyenera kwa inu. Komabe, pali zinthu zina zofunika kuziganizira.

Choyamba, simunatchulepo ngati mnzanu wapezeka kuti ali ndi vuto la m'malire. Pakhoza kukhala zochitika zosiyanasiyana zomwe zimayambitsa zizindikilo zomwe mumalongosola, ndipo amayenera kuwunikiridwa bwino kuti adziwe zomwe zikuchitika.

Chinthu chachiwiri choyenera kukumbukira ndikuti anthu ambiri omwe ali ndi vuto la m'malire amalabadira chithandizo. Chifukwa chake, musanaganize zosudzulana, zingakhale zomveka kuwona ngati mkazi wanu ali wokonzeka komanso wokhoza kutenga nawo mbali pazithandizo za BPD zomwe zingachepetse matenda ake.

Osalingalira Nthawi Zonse Zoipitsitsa

Ngakhale mkazi wanu atapezeka kuti ali ndi vuto lakumalire ndipo ukwati wanu uli pamavuto, musaganize kuti vutoli likhalabe lovuta.

Ndikoyenera kudziwa kuti ngakhale popanda chithandizo, kufotokozera kwa munthu yemwe ali ndi BPD kungakhale kothandiza kwambiri. Anthu ambiri omwe amapezeka kuti ali ndi vuto la m'malire samakwaniritsa zovuta izi kwa zaka zochepa chabe.

Chifukwa chake, ngati mkazi wanu ali ndi vutoli, sikuti ndikumangidwa kumene. Therapy imatha kumuthandiza kukhala wathanzi, kapena imatha kusintha yokha.

Pomaliza, anthu omwe ali ndi vuto lakumalire m'malire nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi zizindikilo zowopsa kwambiri maubwenzi awo ali pamavuto. Kuyesetsa kukhazikitsa ubale wolimba kungathandize mnzanu kukhala ndi nkhawa.

Zachidziwikire, muyenera kuganizira ngati mukufuna kuchita izi. Ndi inu nokha amene mungapange chisankho, koma mungaganizire kutero mothandizidwa ndi wokha wanu, ngati zingatheke.

Kusudzulana kuchokera ku BPD (borderline personality disorder)

Kodi mungatsimikizire bwanji kuti ndi woweruza kuti munthu yemwe ali patsogolo panu, yemwe akuwoneka kuti ndi wamisala komanso wamisala, azikhala wankhanza mpaka pomwe samachoka kukhothi?

Anthu omwe ali ndi BPD ndi anthu omwe mawonekedwe awo ndi kusakhazikika kwamalingaliro, kusakhazikika kwazithunzi, maubale pakati pawo komanso chidwi chodziwika bwino, kuphatikiza pazizindikiro zina zambiri komanso ndizosiyana kwambiri (kudzimva wopanda pake, kusinthasintha pafupipafupi komanso munthawi yochepa, kukwiya kosaneneka, mikhalidwe yopupuluma: mowa, mankhwala osokoneza bongo, kudya kwambiri, kugula, kuyendetsa mosasamala, chiwerewere, ndi zina zambiri) , kudzivulaza, kudziyesa wekha, maubwenzi osokonekera pakati pawo, ndi zina zambiri.

Ndi anthu omwe amavutika kwambiri mkatimo ndipo amatenga nawo mbali kwambiri (ndiwosakhazikika: onse kapena palibe chilichonse, wakuda kapena mzungu, nthawi zonse kapena ayi.), Gwiritsani ntchito zizolowezi kuti muchepetse mantha amkati kudzera munjira zomwe zimadzivulaza okha ndi ena.

Amavutika kwambiri: maanja, akazi, abale, ndi makolo, ndipo awa atha kukhala ndi mavuto amisala (nkhawa, kukhumudwa, ndi zina zambiri) .

Nthawi zomwe munthu wokhudzidwayo sakufuna kuchita nawo psychotherapeutic and psychopharmacological intervention ndi othandizira azaumoyo komanso ngati moyo wa ena uli pachiwopsezo, zomwe zingatengedwe nthawi zonse zimakhala zoteteza omaliza.

Payenera kukhala njira zofunikira kuyesera kupatsa odwala awa chithandizo chamankhwala amisala popeza ambiri a iwo akudziwa zosowazo, koma akuwopa kuti sangachite bwino.

Malangizo

MFUNDO 1: Ngati mwasankha kusudzulana, chitani molimba mtima komanso mwachangu. Musamasonyeze kufooka chifukwa kungathandize chilichonse kukubwezerani kumbuyo ngakhale mutafuna kudzipha. Kodi mungakhale kutali ndi kunyengerera kwake?

MFUNDO 2: Ngati ndiwe wokongola, samala. TLP imakhala yosangalatsa nthawi zonse ikamakonzekera kuukira. Samalani ngati ali abwino chifukwa mudzapezeka kuti muli ofooka, ndipo adzakumenyani. Khalani okhazikika pa chisudzulo chanu ndipo musagwere chifukwa cha zinyengo zawo kapena malingaliro akunja omwe mosakayikira adzawagwiritsa ntchito.

MFUNDO 3: Khalani okonzeka kuteteza ana anu ku ubongo. Mwana wanu akadzabwerera kwa inu, muyenera kumvetsera ana anu akukuuzani zinthu zonse zoyipa zomwe TLP yanu yakale imanena za inu. Muyenera kuchita mwachilengedwe momwe mungathere ndipo musalankhulepo kwa ana anu za bwenzi lanu lakale, koma afotokozereni zomwe zimachitika mukakhala ndi zovuta mwana wanu akamacheza ndi mnzake wakale.

MFUNDO 4: Ganyani loya yemwe angakulipireni komanso amene angakutetezeni mwamphamvu, chifukwa ma TLP ndi abodza, opondereza, ndipo amakukwiyitsani kenako nkukunenani zabodza, pogwiritsa ntchito makhothi kukutsutsani. Nthawi zambiri amachita zinthu mopupuluma ndipo amagwidwa nthawi yomweyo. Amagwidwa ndi mabodza awo. Yesetsani kulumikizana nthawi zonse ndi imelo m'malo moyimbira foni, komanso maofesi olumikizirana ndi ana kuti azilembedwabe ngati mungadzagwiritse ntchito tsiku lina.

MFUNDO 5: Khazikitsani malamulo ndi malangizo. Malamulo ndi kapangidwe kake ali ngati Kryptonite wa TLP. Tsatirani malamulowo ndipo musawaphwanye, kapena mudzakhala ndi chifukwa chomveka chowanenera. Onetsani mwana wanu kuti TLP ndiyodalirika chifukwa cha zochita zake. Khalani thanthwe la mwana wanu, ndipo kumbukirani kuti akuyenera kukhala ndi TLP m'moyo wawo kwamuyaya.

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